I feel truly privileged to get to use my lived experience of sexual, physical and emotional abuse in my childhood to now help women heal and find freedom.
In 2016 I co-founded TransformUK (www.transformuk.org.uk), a youth and community organisation based in East London. Through music and other activities we focus on supporting young people and adults who have experienced trauma and difficult circumstances to transform their lives.
I now lead Love Dominy (www.lovedominy.com), a wellbeing organisation supporting women to heal holistically, host The Path To Power Podcast available on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, support to lead an online daily prayer group (New Feelers Prayer Group) and an online fitness programme (Call Out Courage).
After over a decade of working in frontline and leadership roles in the education, youth and social care sector I embarked on my own journey of therapy. Unfortunately this was not due to it being recommended or insisted upon despite my overworking and burnout, but as a result of noticing patterns of toxic behaviour in my romantic relationships. As a result of a particularly toxic and codependent relationship, I came to believe in a power greater than myself. My faith helped me to realise that I was the common denominator to a series of unhealthy and failed relationships and that I could choose a different way. I came to learn that I could know love, peace and joy in a way I never have before.
I learned that the survival techniques my brain had adapted as a result of early childhood trauma, abuse and abandonment were just that.. they had helped me to survive but I wanted to thrive. I realised that these 'techniques' had become significant barriers to my authentic self and therefore, my ability to have authentic and healthy relationships.
In exploring my own attachment system, triggers, feelings of shame, abandonment and rejection, I started my healing journey. I started to implement healthier behaviours in my physical, emotional, spiritual, financial and mental health and learnt to re-parent myself.
I then became aware of the lack of support available to women around me who wanted to do the same. Not because they did not want to, most women I know want loving & healthy relationships more than anything else but few other women around us are talking about this essential journey inward. That of healing our soul by exploring our shame. There's no scarier or more rewarding journey to go on and if we do not go within, we WILL go without.
I now partner with women, organisations and systems to help create radical shifts in behaviours, beliefs, culture and relationships. Through Love Dominy we have developed programmes, tools, strategies and insights to revolutionise how we can improve our wellbeing through our relationships; starting with our relationship with ourselves.
You can hear more from other incredible men and women also on their healing journey on The Path To Power Podcast available on Apple Podcasts, check out my YouTube Channel, LoveDominy, follow me on instagram @lovedominy and subscribe below to stay in touch.
'Hurt people hurt people but healed people heal people'.